What is The Gap Strategy?
The Gap Strategy is the proven methodology I teach at The Gap Strategist™ coaching practice. This framework helps you identify the three universal gaps—skill, workload, and emotional—that exist in every relationship. By learning to observe and fill these gaps for your boss, colleagues, spouse, and community, you transform from task-doer to strategic contributor, unlocking career acceleration, deeper relationships, and meaningful impact.
The Gap Strategy Framework: Career, Relationships & Life
Skill Gap
Identify what skills others lack—your manager, partner, team, or family—and fill those gaps with your own abilities. It's not about just developing your own skills; it's about recognizing where others need support and stepping in with what you already know.
Work Example: Provide data analytics to become indispensable to leadership. Life Example: Provide active listening to rebuild emotional connection with your spouse.
Workload Gap
Take on the responsibilities that matter most—whether that's high-impact work projects, household tasks your partner dreads, or quality time your kids crave.
Work Example: Volunteer to lead a strategic project that saves $200K. Life Example: Take over morning routines so your partner can finally exercise.
Emotional Gap
Build trust and deepen connections—whether that's earning advocacy at work, rebuilding intimacy in your marriage, or creating safety for your kids to open up.
Work Example: Build relationships with leaders to earn sponsorship. Life Example: Create emotional safety so your spouse feels heard and valued.